It has been 20 days since my last post. Nearly a month has gone by and I am already seeing the fruits that come from being on a budget! Honestly I didn't really think that I would see them until a few years from now, after things were gradually being paid off. But God is so amazing that He is blessing us even now.
After only a couple of weeks, the efforts we are making to honor the Lord in our finances are being rewarded in small but significant ways! And that is a thing that can only come from His almighty grace.
In Proverbs 31:22 our Lady is reaping the benefits of good stewardship in a similar way. All throughout the chapter we have seen the ways in which she works hard to esteem those in her household; money management, making clothes and garments, investing in real estate, gardening, etc. This verse points out that the "fine linen and purple" are expensive evidences of ways that God has blessed her in His grace and lovingkindness.
Cody and I hit up a few after-Christmas sales in Albuquerque on Sunday. I was telling him that I felt humility in a good way... For Christmas I received some wonderful things that I had been wanting, and that I could really use but had put out of my mind because of our budget. We're talking things that weren't necessarily needs, just things I had decided not go get for myself because I am trying to watch my spending. I used to worry about finding a means to get said things, but God has put a change in me that only He can take credit for. I feel so humbled by the fact that my King made a way for me to get these things anyway... He loves me so much to the point that I am down on my hands and knees in undeserving gratitude.
I guess I am just here to report the awesome things God is doing. He doesn't hesitate to show his approval. And the biggest thing I can see is that the changes toward money have come from my heart. I see now how badly I was deceiving myself, and how poor a job I really was doing. My Heavenly Father knows the things I need, and even just things I want. He supplies the birds of the air with food, and clothes the flowers of the field with a splendor that cannot be bought...
This is a fairly short post I noticed, but I'm grateful for that. Sometimes the best things come in small packages. Simplicity is a beautiful thing.
I close now with this prayer.
Scripture is being fulfilled in my life right now... May I remain steadfast in this new attitude, and may I continually bless my Lord with good stewardship.
Have a blessed and Happy New Year!
CW
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
21. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in double thickness.
Wow I have a lot I've been storing away for this newest post.
In fact, most everything has to do with how I've lately veered off-track from this verse. Instead, I have been experiencing worry on top of worry about my debt. In perfect contrast with the woman of Proverbs 31, I have not been that financially responsible... I know I am married and my husband has typically been the main expert with our finances, but he works long hours every week. I got so used to him paying bills that I never let our balances cross my mind. Now that he is gone for most of the day, I've been in charge of overseeing that my loans get paid every month, and I'm also in charge of banking and utilities.
I've always thought I was a pretty frugal person, but I never realized that I was stopping at being thrifty and not planning for the future. November is a month where we start getting into the holidays and spending for Christmas. Well, we spent without limitation, and I realized that I was going to be paying loans off until I was in my fifties. I felt like the biggest failure...like I was irresponsible, and not a good steward. And worst of all, it's all true.
Ouch.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is a mother, upscale, a home manager, and a hard worker. Her husband, her servants, and her children are all taken care of with her as the boss. She runs a tight ship, is wise with her money, and is prepared for whatever may come.
Realizing this about her from the beginning, all I could see was how I failed at being this for my family, and my debts. I remember writing a facebook status a couple of months ago, asking if i should go for the glamourous life, or the simple life. I wanted the things that come with the glamour, but I wanted the simplicity of just being a good steward. I thought for sure that these two kinds of lifestyles were at odds with each other, but now I realize it's that they were warring in my life. I was spending to acquire glamourous things, but what I really need right now (thank you God for your patience) is a simple life, one focused on becoming a good steward of what the Lord has for me right now. Right now, he has given us a house at an amazing price, and do-able monthly bills. He has also given us a way to pay off all my loans in a few years... and a budding side job with photography.
It's just like Jesus tells us in Luke 16: {10-12} "Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else's property, who who will give you property of your own?"
Double-ouch.
All this time I was discontent with my life details, but really I have to become master of my present circumstances before I can move on to bigger and better things. All this time I was trying to acquire the things i want on my own terms... I can't believe how easily I was deceiving myself.
In hopeless desperation I began to pray for how to get myself out of this mess. "Oh Lord," I'd say, "Help me to do things your way." God is so good to answer my measly little cries for help, and He provided a plan... I was at borders and I thought I'd try to see what reading material was available for organization (the house is still a recovering mess from Thanksgiving). I came across a book called Organized Simplicity by Tsh Oxenrieder. A literal answer to prayer, it was all there right in front of me... As I was flipping through the pages and reading what she had to say, I was surprised at how simple life could be, how easy it was to become debt-free, and to do it all on Biblical principles...I was so ready to jump on that bandwagon that I bought the book without a second thought! (I wasn't planning on buying anything that day)
She calls it intentional living. Cody is on board with me like an awesome husband would be, and we are giving our finances and home life a renovation. It's been four days and I already see the changes, not only in our lives at home, but in my over-all attitude. Praise God! He knew I would hit rock bottom emotionally, but He already had a plan to meet me with a way out of my stupidity. Thank you God for your love and mercy and grace.
I close with these thoughts;
God has a plan for everything...If you are going through something similar in your life, I highly recommend getting the book (it's written by a full-time mom who practices what she's preaching). Cody and I are now on a budget...Please pray for us to approach our lives as good stewards, and to be strong in our faith. Help us to stick to each other, and live everyday from the principles of the word.
In faith I know I can now laugh at the days to come.
CW
In fact, most everything has to do with how I've lately veered off-track from this verse. Instead, I have been experiencing worry on top of worry about my debt. In perfect contrast with the woman of Proverbs 31, I have not been that financially responsible... I know I am married and my husband has typically been the main expert with our finances, but he works long hours every week. I got so used to him paying bills that I never let our balances cross my mind. Now that he is gone for most of the day, I've been in charge of overseeing that my loans get paid every month, and I'm also in charge of banking and utilities.
I've always thought I was a pretty frugal person, but I never realized that I was stopping at being thrifty and not planning for the future. November is a month where we start getting into the holidays and spending for Christmas. Well, we spent without limitation, and I realized that I was going to be paying loans off until I was in my fifties. I felt like the biggest failure...like I was irresponsible, and not a good steward. And worst of all, it's all true.
Ouch.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is a mother, upscale, a home manager, and a hard worker. Her husband, her servants, and her children are all taken care of with her as the boss. She runs a tight ship, is wise with her money, and is prepared for whatever may come.
Realizing this about her from the beginning, all I could see was how I failed at being this for my family, and my debts. I remember writing a facebook status a couple of months ago, asking if i should go for the glamourous life, or the simple life. I wanted the things that come with the glamour, but I wanted the simplicity of just being a good steward. I thought for sure that these two kinds of lifestyles were at odds with each other, but now I realize it's that they were warring in my life. I was spending to acquire glamourous things, but what I really need right now (thank you God for your patience) is a simple life, one focused on becoming a good steward of what the Lord has for me right now. Right now, he has given us a house at an amazing price, and do-able monthly bills. He has also given us a way to pay off all my loans in a few years... and a budding side job with photography.
It's just like Jesus tells us in Luke 16: {10-12} "Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else's property, who who will give you property of your own?"
Double-ouch.
All this time I was discontent with my life details, but really I have to become master of my present circumstances before I can move on to bigger and better things. All this time I was trying to acquire the things i want on my own terms... I can't believe how easily I was deceiving myself.
In hopeless desperation I began to pray for how to get myself out of this mess. "Oh Lord," I'd say, "Help me to do things your way." God is so good to answer my measly little cries for help, and He provided a plan... I was at borders and I thought I'd try to see what reading material was available for organization (the house is still a recovering mess from Thanksgiving). I came across a book called Organized Simplicity by Tsh Oxenrieder. A literal answer to prayer, it was all there right in front of me... As I was flipping through the pages and reading what she had to say, I was surprised at how simple life could be, how easy it was to become debt-free, and to do it all on Biblical principles...I was so ready to jump on that bandwagon that I bought the book without a second thought! (I wasn't planning on buying anything that day)
She calls it intentional living. Cody is on board with me like an awesome husband would be, and we are giving our finances and home life a renovation. It's been four days and I already see the changes, not only in our lives at home, but in my over-all attitude. Praise God! He knew I would hit rock bottom emotionally, but He already had a plan to meet me with a way out of my stupidity. Thank you God for your love and mercy and grace.
I close with these thoughts;
God has a plan for everything...If you are going through something similar in your life, I highly recommend getting the book (it's written by a full-time mom who practices what she's preaching). Cody and I are now on a budget...Please pray for us to approach our lives as good stewards, and to be strong in our faith. Help us to stick to each other, and live everyday from the principles of the word.
In faith I know I can now laugh at the days to come.
CW
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
20. She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy.
A story to open with...
If you ever watch an ant hill, all the little ladies (the males hang out with the queen inside) are always working, non-stop until sundown. I remember one time my husband and I were having a picnic, and there was a small ant hill about 5 feet away from us. I was curious to see if they would drop what they were doing if I left a piece of lunch on the ground. He and I both agreed that it would be interesting to find out! So I laid a little part of my sandwich on the dirt, and just waited.
It took them no more than 5 minutes to find it and start breaking it down. I guess one of their little scouts had smelled it, wandered off, found the scrap of food, and sent back the message to the other workers. It was amazing how fast they started disassembling the piece of sandwich! They didn't hesitate for one second...food is food, and they always sieze an opportunity to store up a snack.
Segway into the present...
This morning I was sitting at my kitchen table and pondering the outside world. The view I have is of the neighbor's front yard across the street. I was reading scripture and drinking coffee, and I came across one of my favorite verses about the wisdom of the ant.
"Go to the ant, you sluggard. Consider her ways and be wise. She has no chief, officer, or ruler, but she prepares her bread in the summer, and gathers her food in the harvest." Proverbs 6:6-8
It's amazing how the will of the Word is reflected in nature, even in the smallest things like ant colonies. God created organization, and it is an innate behavior in us because we are His workmanship. We are supposed to be responsible, carry specific roles in our jobs and in our fellowship, and sieze opportunities that He gives us to. One of those opportunities is to be a servant to those around us.
I find it so interesting that Wisdom is referred to as "she," in Proverbs. While this is truly flattering, I feel it also subtly states that perhaps the female is upheld to a pretty high standard in the scripture. Throughout chapter 31 we have seen how much she spiritually and physically is responsible for. But so many times, how we deal with life is the opposite of wise. How many times have we let our impulsive emotions run our decision-making, instead of relying on the type of Wisdom that can only come from God? Sometimes it feels easier to rely only on emotions instead of fearing the Lord.
I also feel that it is important not to let how much wisdom/knowledge we have give us an ego. We ought to seek wisdom from God, and not from earthly educators. I think that knowledge is something we as women long for deep in our souls. For me it stems from wanting to understand something I don't, showing someone that I understand (either in a time of need or just in a learning environment), and a deep underlying need to be understood. That is a wonderful deep trait put in me by God...however sometimes we let how much we know trick us into thinking we are wise because of how much we have learned.
God's word says that "this kind of knowledge puffs up." (1 Corinthians 8:1-3). Just when you think you know something, be ready to find out that you really have a lot to learn.
I am guilty of the former, and have been time and time again. It is a battle I constantly fight because it has interfered with my having compassion and humility. There is a vast difference between being smart and being wise, and I have often confused the two. If there is any woman I can relate to, it is Eve. Knowledge was Eve's weakness in the Garden of Eden. She thought that trying things in a different way than God's was going to enlighten her and make her wise. Just like her, I have easily deceived myself and suffered the consequences.
Instead of biting off more than you can chew (acting like you know everything), try the little ant's approach and take a little at a time with the help of an army. This strategy will help us in our witness to others.
The word "poor" from Proverbs 31:20 is actually the same word used for "lowly" or "humble." This verse refers to two main types of people; those who are physically and materially poor, and those who are spiritually poor. This extension of ourselves to benefit others is perhaps the most crucial role we could fill in this life. When the Lord gives us resources and blesses us, He expects us to turn around and do it for someone else. When we know someone is surrounded by hopelessness and confusion about their circumstances, we need to be ready to meet them with truth, wisdom, and encouragement because of our hope in Christ.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is prepared for both kinds of situations, and more importantly, she actively responds to them. Just like the ant finding the food and bringing it back to the colony, the Proverbs woman sees a person who needs help and helps them. Right now I see myself as this woman, but also the poor person who needs help. Never believe that you are above needing help, and never avoid helping someone who is in need.
The opportunities God places in our lives are always unique and individual, however we are all to respond in the same way; with wisdom, love, and compassion. There are several opportunities that I know He is crossing my path with, and I realize how many times I have just looked the other way. I cower away from the circumstances. Why I am scared, who knows? Perhaps I think I am smarter than my Lord, and that I am not every wrong. But that is when I rely on my own logic and try to ignore what I know God wants from me. Who am I not to respond? Am I superior enough to ignore the needs of God's creation? Do I really have nothing left to learn? The hard truth is that the Son of God, the Word that spoke creation into existence, that became a man and let people beat him and spit on Him, He humbled himself to Glorify the Father, and die for the salvation of man. He is who we are to model our lives after, and He is the stark reminder that going through our lives without any kind of humility is a detriment.
I close as I always do; confounded by the reality that meditation on only one verse in the Word brings a wellspring of truth and revelation. My God is truly amazing.
Pray that I will be bolder in my faith and witness, and more humble in my walk with Christ. God deserves nothing less from me, and anyone else. Pray that the women around you will seek God's wisdom. Pray that for humility.
In Him,
Caryn
If you ever watch an ant hill, all the little ladies (the males hang out with the queen inside) are always working, non-stop until sundown. I remember one time my husband and I were having a picnic, and there was a small ant hill about 5 feet away from us. I was curious to see if they would drop what they were doing if I left a piece of lunch on the ground. He and I both agreed that it would be interesting to find out! So I laid a little part of my sandwich on the dirt, and just waited.
It took them no more than 5 minutes to find it and start breaking it down. I guess one of their little scouts had smelled it, wandered off, found the scrap of food, and sent back the message to the other workers. It was amazing how fast they started disassembling the piece of sandwich! They didn't hesitate for one second...food is food, and they always sieze an opportunity to store up a snack.
Segway into the present...
This morning I was sitting at my kitchen table and pondering the outside world. The view I have is of the neighbor's front yard across the street. I was reading scripture and drinking coffee, and I came across one of my favorite verses about the wisdom of the ant.
"Go to the ant, you sluggard. Consider her ways and be wise. She has no chief, officer, or ruler, but she prepares her bread in the summer, and gathers her food in the harvest." Proverbs 6:6-8
It's amazing how the will of the Word is reflected in nature, even in the smallest things like ant colonies. God created organization, and it is an innate behavior in us because we are His workmanship. We are supposed to be responsible, carry specific roles in our jobs and in our fellowship, and sieze opportunities that He gives us to. One of those opportunities is to be a servant to those around us.
I find it so interesting that Wisdom is referred to as "she," in Proverbs. While this is truly flattering, I feel it also subtly states that perhaps the female is upheld to a pretty high standard in the scripture. Throughout chapter 31 we have seen how much she spiritually and physically is responsible for. But so many times, how we deal with life is the opposite of wise. How many times have we let our impulsive emotions run our decision-making, instead of relying on the type of Wisdom that can only come from God? Sometimes it feels easier to rely only on emotions instead of fearing the Lord.
I also feel that it is important not to let how much wisdom/knowledge we have give us an ego. We ought to seek wisdom from God, and not from earthly educators. I think that knowledge is something we as women long for deep in our souls. For me it stems from wanting to understand something I don't, showing someone that I understand (either in a time of need or just in a learning environment), and a deep underlying need to be understood. That is a wonderful deep trait put in me by God...however sometimes we let how much we know trick us into thinking we are wise because of how much we have learned.
God's word says that "this kind of knowledge puffs up." (1 Corinthians 8:1-3). Just when you think you know something, be ready to find out that you really have a lot to learn.
I am guilty of the former, and have been time and time again. It is a battle I constantly fight because it has interfered with my having compassion and humility. There is a vast difference between being smart and being wise, and I have often confused the two. If there is any woman I can relate to, it is Eve. Knowledge was Eve's weakness in the Garden of Eden. She thought that trying things in a different way than God's was going to enlighten her and make her wise. Just like her, I have easily deceived myself and suffered the consequences.
Instead of biting off more than you can chew (acting like you know everything), try the little ant's approach and take a little at a time with the help of an army. This strategy will help us in our witness to others.
The word "poor" from Proverbs 31:20 is actually the same word used for "lowly" or "humble." This verse refers to two main types of people; those who are physically and materially poor, and those who are spiritually poor. This extension of ourselves to benefit others is perhaps the most crucial role we could fill in this life. When the Lord gives us resources and blesses us, He expects us to turn around and do it for someone else. When we know someone is surrounded by hopelessness and confusion about their circumstances, we need to be ready to meet them with truth, wisdom, and encouragement because of our hope in Christ.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is prepared for both kinds of situations, and more importantly, she actively responds to them. Just like the ant finding the food and bringing it back to the colony, the Proverbs woman sees a person who needs help and helps them. Right now I see myself as this woman, but also the poor person who needs help. Never believe that you are above needing help, and never avoid helping someone who is in need.
The opportunities God places in our lives are always unique and individual, however we are all to respond in the same way; with wisdom, love, and compassion. There are several opportunities that I know He is crossing my path with, and I realize how many times I have just looked the other way. I cower away from the circumstances. Why I am scared, who knows? Perhaps I think I am smarter than my Lord, and that I am not every wrong. But that is when I rely on my own logic and try to ignore what I know God wants from me. Who am I not to respond? Am I superior enough to ignore the needs of God's creation? Do I really have nothing left to learn? The hard truth is that the Son of God, the Word that spoke creation into existence, that became a man and let people beat him and spit on Him, He humbled himself to Glorify the Father, and die for the salvation of man. He is who we are to model our lives after, and He is the stark reminder that going through our lives without any kind of humility is a detriment.
I close as I always do; confounded by the reality that meditation on only one verse in the Word brings a wellspring of truth and revelation. My God is truly amazing.
Pray that I will be bolder in my faith and witness, and more humble in my walk with Christ. God deserves nothing less from me, and anyone else. Pray that the women around you will seek God's wisdom. Pray that for humility.
In Him,
Caryn
Monday, October 11, 2010
19. In her hands she holds the distaff, and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
The wise woman of Proverbs 31 is a hustle-and-bustle merchant by day, and an artisan at night by lamplight. She is always taking advantage of opportunities to spin fibers for clothing for her family, to invest her money, and to prepare for harsh weather and days ahead. I think it should be realized that she seizes every opportunity that comes to her, and that she more importantly makes opportunities to get her work done.
The description of the woman in Proverbs 31 keeps coming back to a main characteristic. In all she does, she is wise. All of her skills stem from wisdom, and she is a servant with those skills, happily using them to enhance the quality of life for those around her. Having free time is definitely considered a luxury that most Americans seek after. It's nice to watch a movie, read a book, or pamper yourself for a day. While it is good to stop and smell the roses every now and then, one shouldn't seek after idle time very often.
Idleness is what today's verse broaches on. The mention of our lady using the distaff and spindle refers back to verse 18 where it says, "she sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." Most people have probably heard the saying, "Idle hands are the devil's tools." This is a warning that if you aren't doing something useful and constructive with the time that is given you, you are susceptible to sabotaging the good things you have. If a woman's hands are idle and if she is not engaged in worthwhile, constructive pursuits, nothing good can stem from it.
Reading and writing out these validities is definitely easier than doing them. Right now my attitude could very easily be (and at times has been) passive. My husband is away at work for about 10 hours a day, and I have been just staying at home. There are times where I'll decide that I am going to work on something, but then I watch t.v. instead. There is nothing wrong with watching t.v., but it can easily be used to interrupt productivity. There are things I want to do for us like getting the decorating in order, and building a home office. Gardening was on the list for this year, but we moved into our house so close to the fall that I won't bother until the spring. But we need to chop wood and clean out the fireplace, and get to getting on the office organization.
Sometimes I feel myself fighting it. Sometimes I fail at winning against myself. One thing I know, though, is that every time I finish a task on my list, only good comes from it. I helped out my husband, I pushed us a little closer to our overall goals, and my self-confidence gets a boost from the accomplishment. Why should I worry about getting in spare time? God has always provided that for me at times that I was overwhelmed with how much I had going on. He is such a good God, and He doesn't expect me to work myself to death. It's my attitude that needs to be kept in check.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I war with true, biblical submissiveness. I am a 20-something, married for just over a year, and living in a free country. Those are all great ingredients for a hard-headed, super-independent feminaze who worries about being oppressed by her engagements. The reality is, I am the farthest thing from oppressed. I may not be rich, but we can pay the bills and afford things. I may not be a traveling the globe, but my own little world is a thing of true beauty and bounty. I may not have all the camera equipment and social life I could dream of, but I never want for anything, and I have such rich spouse, friend, and family relationships. As it stands, I will not be put in jail or killed because of my "religious" beliefs in this country. My life is so blessed and it is sad that I have such a pathetic attitude about it sometimes. Who am I to say that I am too important to work on something? Who am I to be so entitled as to think I deserve everything I want?
A marriage is supposed to be one of mutual submissiveness to the roles God has given each spouse. No matter what the circumstances, I know I need to uphold my end of the deal. Pray for me this week, that I may be helpful, respectful, productive, and reverent to God, and to my husband.
Thanks,
C.W.
The description of the woman in Proverbs 31 keeps coming back to a main characteristic. In all she does, she is wise. All of her skills stem from wisdom, and she is a servant with those skills, happily using them to enhance the quality of life for those around her. Having free time is definitely considered a luxury that most Americans seek after. It's nice to watch a movie, read a book, or pamper yourself for a day. While it is good to stop and smell the roses every now and then, one shouldn't seek after idle time very often.
Idleness is what today's verse broaches on. The mention of our lady using the distaff and spindle refers back to verse 18 where it says, "she sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." Most people have probably heard the saying, "Idle hands are the devil's tools." This is a warning that if you aren't doing something useful and constructive with the time that is given you, you are susceptible to sabotaging the good things you have. If a woman's hands are idle and if she is not engaged in worthwhile, constructive pursuits, nothing good can stem from it.
Reading and writing out these validities is definitely easier than doing them. Right now my attitude could very easily be (and at times has been) passive. My husband is away at work for about 10 hours a day, and I have been just staying at home. There are times where I'll decide that I am going to work on something, but then I watch t.v. instead. There is nothing wrong with watching t.v., but it can easily be used to interrupt productivity. There are things I want to do for us like getting the decorating in order, and building a home office. Gardening was on the list for this year, but we moved into our house so close to the fall that I won't bother until the spring. But we need to chop wood and clean out the fireplace, and get to getting on the office organization.
Sometimes I feel myself fighting it. Sometimes I fail at winning against myself. One thing I know, though, is that every time I finish a task on my list, only good comes from it. I helped out my husband, I pushed us a little closer to our overall goals, and my self-confidence gets a boost from the accomplishment. Why should I worry about getting in spare time? God has always provided that for me at times that I was overwhelmed with how much I had going on. He is such a good God, and He doesn't expect me to work myself to death. It's my attitude that needs to be kept in check.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I war with true, biblical submissiveness. I am a 20-something, married for just over a year, and living in a free country. Those are all great ingredients for a hard-headed, super-independent feminaze who worries about being oppressed by her engagements. The reality is, I am the farthest thing from oppressed. I may not be rich, but we can pay the bills and afford things. I may not be a traveling the globe, but my own little world is a thing of true beauty and bounty. I may not have all the camera equipment and social life I could dream of, but I never want for anything, and I have such rich spouse, friend, and family relationships. As it stands, I will not be put in jail or killed because of my "religious" beliefs in this country. My life is so blessed and it is sad that I have such a pathetic attitude about it sometimes. Who am I to say that I am too important to work on something? Who am I to be so entitled as to think I deserve everything I want?
A marriage is supposed to be one of mutual submissiveness to the roles God has given each spouse. No matter what the circumstances, I know I need to uphold my end of the deal. Pray for me this week, that I may be helpful, respectful, productive, and reverent to God, and to my husband.
Thanks,
C.W.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
18. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.'
Ah, the first signs of Fall are here! I'm sitting at the little breakfast nook in my kitchen, taking it all in.
I was reading about our heroine in Proverbs this morning, and this verse really cuts me to the core every time. She is a woman who works hard at everything, both day and night. Her joy comes from the success of her labor. As an overseer of a trade, the Proverbs woman keeps herself accountable to seeing that her skills and jobs produce financial fruit. Now I know that not everyone is of a business-oriented/administrative nature, but I think if you are in fact cut from that cloth, God expects you to put your all into it.
This reminds me of my photography business. I don't consider myself a shrewd business woman, however I have made a little business out of a seemingly hopeless situation. During my last few semesters of college, I was really doubting my choice of major (it was in the humanities), and was regretting not having more time for a photography hobby that was starting to blossom. It is a scary thing to realize you are almost done obtaining a degree and that you still have no clue about your life's direction! They don't prepare you for that one in college.
Anyways, that idea consumed my prayers during the final semester of school. And God, working in mysterious ways as He always does, showed me that He wanted me to pursue this photography idea further. It was scary to trust that He was giving me a real plunge to take with an artistic occupation. I've always felt guilty for enjoying art so much because I questioned how I could help people with it. Silly child. He is such an amazing, loving, wonderful Father, and He knew He could and would use me in the lives of people no matter what job position I filled. I always kick myself after I doubt Him.
I think as Christians, we are not known for our business skills. But the ironic part of this reality is that we ought to be known for our wisdom and success in the business world! I think that we miss the mark at taking ownership of the job that God has provided for us, and instead we confuse success and gain as selfish ambition. There have been a few times where I have felt taken advantage of by clients, who have either stiffed me or asked what I consider too much (more than what my job was). I realized after some wise counsel that God does not expect us to be passive doormats, but instead to be a little more regimented. Self-discipline is where I am going with this. If we are going to run a business, we need to be able to discipline that as well as ourselves. We ought not to be controlled by our jobs, however we are to be actively involved in seeing a lucrative outcome.
It is like the parable of the talents. Jesus was trying to tell his disciples that when God puts you in charge of something, it is your duty to go out and make it work. 'Master...you have entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained you five more (Matthew 25:20).' It is something good, that pleases the Master. Our thinking has become backwards, mistaking God's plans for us, and eliminating our active roles in everyday life. He expects us to do great things in His name, so that His wisdom and power may be known.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is daily attentive to bringing an income to the table. Her ambitions are not selfish because she is doing it to Praise God, and bless her family. After much reflection, I see now that I have been half-hearted in my professional endeavors. I was not the woman in Proverbs 31:18, nor was I the man in the parable of the talents. I thought that was supposed to kick back and wait for God to send me work...I was deceived, thinking that the necessary, genuine hard work it takes to keep a business going was my being too controlling. Oh God please forgive me, and lead me in your wisdom! I am ready for a change. I am ready to go out and work for you.
Praise to the God who has plans for our prosperity and not our harm...Plans to give us hope and a future!
Amen,
C.W.
I was reading about our heroine in Proverbs this morning, and this verse really cuts me to the core every time. She is a woman who works hard at everything, both day and night. Her joy comes from the success of her labor. As an overseer of a trade, the Proverbs woman keeps herself accountable to seeing that her skills and jobs produce financial fruit. Now I know that not everyone is of a business-oriented/administrative nature, but I think if you are in fact cut from that cloth, God expects you to put your all into it.
This reminds me of my photography business. I don't consider myself a shrewd business woman, however I have made a little business out of a seemingly hopeless situation. During my last few semesters of college, I was really doubting my choice of major (it was in the humanities), and was regretting not having more time for a photography hobby that was starting to blossom. It is a scary thing to realize you are almost done obtaining a degree and that you still have no clue about your life's direction! They don't prepare you for that one in college.
Anyways, that idea consumed my prayers during the final semester of school. And God, working in mysterious ways as He always does, showed me that He wanted me to pursue this photography idea further. It was scary to trust that He was giving me a real plunge to take with an artistic occupation. I've always felt guilty for enjoying art so much because I questioned how I could help people with it. Silly child. He is such an amazing, loving, wonderful Father, and He knew He could and would use me in the lives of people no matter what job position I filled. I always kick myself after I doubt Him.
I think as Christians, we are not known for our business skills. But the ironic part of this reality is that we ought to be known for our wisdom and success in the business world! I think that we miss the mark at taking ownership of the job that God has provided for us, and instead we confuse success and gain as selfish ambition. There have been a few times where I have felt taken advantage of by clients, who have either stiffed me or asked what I consider too much (more than what my job was). I realized after some wise counsel that God does not expect us to be passive doormats, but instead to be a little more regimented. Self-discipline is where I am going with this. If we are going to run a business, we need to be able to discipline that as well as ourselves. We ought not to be controlled by our jobs, however we are to be actively involved in seeing a lucrative outcome.
It is like the parable of the talents. Jesus was trying to tell his disciples that when God puts you in charge of something, it is your duty to go out and make it work. 'Master...you have entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained you five more (Matthew 25:20).' It is something good, that pleases the Master. Our thinking has become backwards, mistaking God's plans for us, and eliminating our active roles in everyday life. He expects us to do great things in His name, so that His wisdom and power may be known.
The woman of Proverbs 31 is daily attentive to bringing an income to the table. Her ambitions are not selfish because she is doing it to Praise God, and bless her family. After much reflection, I see now that I have been half-hearted in my professional endeavors. I was not the woman in Proverbs 31:18, nor was I the man in the parable of the talents. I thought that was supposed to kick back and wait for God to send me work...I was deceived, thinking that the necessary, genuine hard work it takes to keep a business going was my being too controlling. Oh God please forgive me, and lead me in your wisdom! I am ready for a change. I am ready to go out and work for you.
Praise to the God who has plans for our prosperity and not our harm...Plans to give us hope and a future!
Amen,
C.W.
Sunday, July 25, 2010
17. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her task.
We got the keys to our first house ever, finally! My in-laws came down on Friday and helped me empty out our storage unit. I am in love with this little house... The decor is slightly outdated for our taste (a little too much of that 70s brown). So re-decorating is all I can think about right now!
Anyways...
Okay so I love this passage. It talks about her strength, not only in character but also physically and mentally. 'Her arms are strong for her task' means that she is knowledgable in all sorts of work; upholstery, seamstressing, manufacturing, real estate, and farming. Honestly, I really feel that this kind of knowledge us highly underrated in its importance, especially in the roles of the modern-day wife and mother. As Americans, we rely on factories and manufacturing plants to supply us with furniture, clothes, and groceries. As a result, our health and quality of life suffers. The demand is high, and the quality of our food, clothes, how are houses are built, and our purpose has dwindled into something more 'superficial.' The Proverbs 31 woman eliminates the need for a middle man because she is in-the-know about gardening, investing, and importing.
Her character is a testament that we as women are supposed to be deeply involved in decisions about our livelihood. I read in a commentary that people tend be mistaken in the character of the lady of Proverbs 31. They think she is a retired, servile, and entirely domesticated woman. Not so! She is the executive decision maker of crucial details of her and her family's lives. She has outstanding abilities, and her family's social position is high...she is the portrait of ideal womanhood.
I love that this woman is a shrewd business woman. I aspire to be her in my little bubble of professionalism. I am an amateur photographer, and have been trying to get my portrait business off the ground. However, business has never been a natural thing for me. As of late, I have been struggling with being firm with my clients in my price, and services. As a result, I feel taken advantage of, and not in a good way. I wrote a fellow photographer friend, who owns his own budding business, and asked him what he has learned from these kind of situations. He told me that of course we need grace to be at hand for some people, however we as Christians, ought to be better business people than the non.
Wow! Seriously? And I was enabling people to walk all over me! I knew it made me feel like a zero, but I wasn't sure if it was actually wrong. Praise God, that we are to be peaceable, but not doormats. I've never considered myself a sucker, easily swayed, or naive...that is, up until recently. It has taken me a while to figure this out for myself, and I am so grateful that He has great expectations of me, even and especially in owning a business.
God's word and encouragement has made me feel empowered, and I can't wait to run with it!
My Savior does what is above and beyond, and He expects the same from me. May I rise to the occasion! Pray for me friends...
In Him,
C.W.
Anyways...
Okay so I love this passage. It talks about her strength, not only in character but also physically and mentally. 'Her arms are strong for her task' means that she is knowledgable in all sorts of work; upholstery, seamstressing, manufacturing, real estate, and farming. Honestly, I really feel that this kind of knowledge us highly underrated in its importance, especially in the roles of the modern-day wife and mother. As Americans, we rely on factories and manufacturing plants to supply us with furniture, clothes, and groceries. As a result, our health and quality of life suffers. The demand is high, and the quality of our food, clothes, how are houses are built, and our purpose has dwindled into something more 'superficial.' The Proverbs 31 woman eliminates the need for a middle man because she is in-the-know about gardening, investing, and importing.
Her character is a testament that we as women are supposed to be deeply involved in decisions about our livelihood. I read in a commentary that people tend be mistaken in the character of the lady of Proverbs 31. They think she is a retired, servile, and entirely domesticated woman. Not so! She is the executive decision maker of crucial details of her and her family's lives. She has outstanding abilities, and her family's social position is high...she is the portrait of ideal womanhood.
I love that this woman is a shrewd business woman. I aspire to be her in my little bubble of professionalism. I am an amateur photographer, and have been trying to get my portrait business off the ground. However, business has never been a natural thing for me. As of late, I have been struggling with being firm with my clients in my price, and services. As a result, I feel taken advantage of, and not in a good way. I wrote a fellow photographer friend, who owns his own budding business, and asked him what he has learned from these kind of situations. He told me that of course we need grace to be at hand for some people, however we as Christians, ought to be better business people than the non.
Wow! Seriously? And I was enabling people to walk all over me! I knew it made me feel like a zero, but I wasn't sure if it was actually wrong. Praise God, that we are to be peaceable, but not doormats. I've never considered myself a sucker, easily swayed, or naive...that is, up until recently. It has taken me a while to figure this out for myself, and I am so grateful that He has great expectations of me, even and especially in owning a business.
God's word and encouragement has made me feel empowered, and I can't wait to run with it!
My Savior does what is above and beyond, and He expects the same from me. May I rise to the occasion! Pray for me friends...
In Him,
C.W.
Friday, July 9, 2010
16. She considers a field and buys it, and from her earnings she plants a vineyard.
Dear Fellow Followers;
Money is an ugly thing sometimes. A wise man once told me that married couples fight about three things; money, sex, and children. And what it boils down to is that the to parties come into a marriage with their own expectations about said subjects. Most people fight about differences in what they want, and the category most fought about (at least int the US) is money.
This passage I feel re-focuses us on several factors that have already been addressed by the author of the Proverb; Trust, Integrity, and Finances.
Verse 16 is probably one of the most interesting verses to me so far.
I read in a commentary that, in the hebrew text, the word 'considers' comes from a word used to describe devising and plotting (often associated with evil actions). In order for any plan to be executed with success, it has to be planned down to every detail. It cannot be made "on the fly" as most decisions are in America. This passage talks about a woman who has discretion and wisdom in her financial role.
I find this verse interesting because it was written in a time where women were still considered by many nations to be property. However, verse 16 talks about a woman who possibly makes her own money, and contributes it to the needs of her household. 'The heart of her husband safely trusts in her,' and she can make him a vineyard!
How is this applicable for me and my husband? Well,my husband is the primary source of income, and rightly so. Finances have never been a strength of mine, however my husband has always had wisdom in this department. He is the main financier with everything so far (which I respect), and has really proven himself with our income. Even though i have no qualifying background (except being frugal with spending) he trusts me as an equal partner.
The fact that he trusts me to make decisions for the both of us makes me want to do a good job for him.
Right now we are waiting to close on our very first house. I feel that my role is to take care of the everyday things that he is away for. Especially when we move into our house, I'm going to be the primary financier for getting it in shape. It's lovely, but someone else's style is covering the walls! Also, I have been trying to get a business off the ground, my photography. Along with that, I am considering opening up a store on Etsy. I would love to be able to contribute with some of my gifts to our livelihood! It is on the horizon, but I'm waiting for God to wave the checkered flag!
Although I couldn't see it before, I now see why God has been having me put it off (besides saving for the house and the mortgage, insurance, etc). It's got to be in His time, and it's got to be something that is going to help us, and not hurt us.
I guess one thing that I need to put in here is that God has blessed my husband and I with great communication. I feel that is very important in a marriage, no matter what the decision is. If you love each other, you will be honest about your needs, wants, and expectations with each other. We consider things together, and we support each others' interests. We are open about everything, and it has really been our saving grace in hard times.
I am very excited about what I see on the horizon! Since everything is still up in the air, I don't have much to write about, only that I think that the Lord is making me aware of what could be. I have always appreciated a heads up on things.
Well, on that note, I'd better get back to household chores. We're having beef parmesan with pasta for dinner tonight!
God Bless,
C.W.
Thanks for reading!
Money is an ugly thing sometimes. A wise man once told me that married couples fight about three things; money, sex, and children. And what it boils down to is that the to parties come into a marriage with their own expectations about said subjects. Most people fight about differences in what they want, and the category most fought about (at least int the US) is money.
This passage I feel re-focuses us on several factors that have already been addressed by the author of the Proverb; Trust, Integrity, and Finances.
Verse 16 is probably one of the most interesting verses to me so far.
I read in a commentary that, in the hebrew text, the word 'considers' comes from a word used to describe devising and plotting (often associated with evil actions). In order for any plan to be executed with success, it has to be planned down to every detail. It cannot be made "on the fly" as most decisions are in America. This passage talks about a woman who has discretion and wisdom in her financial role.
I find this verse interesting because it was written in a time where women were still considered by many nations to be property. However, verse 16 talks about a woman who possibly makes her own money, and contributes it to the needs of her household. 'The heart of her husband safely trusts in her,' and she can make him a vineyard!
How is this applicable for me and my husband? Well,my husband is the primary source of income, and rightly so. Finances have never been a strength of mine, however my husband has always had wisdom in this department. He is the main financier with everything so far (which I respect), and has really proven himself with our income. Even though i have no qualifying background (except being frugal with spending) he trusts me as an equal partner.
The fact that he trusts me to make decisions for the both of us makes me want to do a good job for him.
Right now we are waiting to close on our very first house. I feel that my role is to take care of the everyday things that he is away for. Especially when we move into our house, I'm going to be the primary financier for getting it in shape. It's lovely, but someone else's style is covering the walls! Also, I have been trying to get a business off the ground, my photography. Along with that, I am considering opening up a store on Etsy. I would love to be able to contribute with some of my gifts to our livelihood! It is on the horizon, but I'm waiting for God to wave the checkered flag!
Although I couldn't see it before, I now see why God has been having me put it off (besides saving for the house and the mortgage, insurance, etc). It's got to be in His time, and it's got to be something that is going to help us, and not hurt us.
I guess one thing that I need to put in here is that God has blessed my husband and I with great communication. I feel that is very important in a marriage, no matter what the decision is. If you love each other, you will be honest about your needs, wants, and expectations with each other. We consider things together, and we support each others' interests. We are open about everything, and it has really been our saving grace in hard times.
I am very excited about what I see on the horizon! Since everything is still up in the air, I don't have much to write about, only that I think that the Lord is making me aware of what could be. I have always appreciated a heads up on things.
Well, on that note, I'd better get back to household chores. We're having beef parmesan with pasta for dinner tonight!
God Bless,
C.W.
Thanks for reading!
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
15. She gets up while it is still dark; She provides food for her family and portions for her maidens.
First of all, thank you Lord Jesus for the beautiful day. Secondly, thank you to those friends of mine who have been keeping me accountable to consistently updating this blog. I am blessed to know that what I write is interesting to you :) May what I'm learning bless you and help you down the road!
Okay, so I watched an episode of MTV's Made this morning, and I received such an interesting spiritual insight. The episode was about a group of high school cheerleaders who needed to bond, and become great school spirit leaders. There was of course, lots of drama, mostly coming from two of the girls. The coach made opportunities for them to communicate their issues to one another, and cat fights arose. The coach enabled the girls, however, to become more independently responsible. And one of the girls, who was unanimously viewed by all the girls as non-dramatic, and on everybody's side, was voted as the team captain. Voted as her co-captain was a girl who was one of the divas who made a total turn-around in her attitude. The girls all came to respect her for it, and put her second in command.
What I gained from this silly show was that although the girl who was made co-captain was more popular than the other leader, the girl who was made 1st captain was respected from the beginning.
It made me think of the focal verse in this post, and how it seems like this Proverb woman's virtuosity had almost no beginning. The descriptions about her are like the view of the girls and their captain; from the beginning, she gained their respect by being respectful.
As I pondered verse 15, it is ironic as to what God is showing me (I have been praying that I become this proverbs 31 woman). The 'getting up while it is still dark' is actually a reality of my life right now. My husband as to be at his job site by 6:00 am. It takes an hour of driving to get there from our neighborhood, and so he has to leave by 5. He gets up at around 4:15 am and gets ready. He has to bring along a lot of safety gear, and quite often doesn't allow himself time to pack his breakfast and lunch for the day.
From the beginning of this part of our life, God has put it on my heart to wake up with him and make him food. So I wake up while it's still dark, and cook him some good breakfast, lunch, and pack him lots of snacks to get him through the day.
As for the 'family' part of the verse, we are staying at a friends' house until the closing date of our home. They are so kind to let us stay here, as it will be almost a month of living with them until we can move out. Therefore, God has put it on my heart to also help out this amazing couple with cooking, cleaning, and looking after the house (the husband works with my husband, and the wife also has a full time job). So that is what I have been doing since I have not had a paying job. The four of us make up a unique family situation, and it has truly been a blessing through and through since the day we came under their roof.
The moral of the story is, give, because you are given. Be willing to give of yourself, even when you think you don't have anything worth giving. I have a weakness for feeling inadequate since I do not bring in any income. However, I realize that God is using it to not only help out my husband, but also our friends. In a way, He is using me to fill in the gaps for what they don't have time for. He is so good and His reasons are too.
As a woman, the crown of God's creation, we are put in charge of great things, and great situations. While it may appear minuscule to us, or our churches, or even some of the men and women in our lives, it always serves some greater importance. God has us females to argue the more sensitive side; to feel the emotion of a situation; to think about the outcome; to handle and balance out things which our male counterparts are not equipped for. We are part of a greater story than we realize. God really does give us a great, and honored responsibility to reflect the side of His nature which we are modeled after. We are an excellent and equal partner, not just in a marriage relationship, but as daughters, sisters, coworkers, friends, authorities, business entrepreneurs, and soldiers.
Well, I am off to do laundry, and eat some late lunch.
Thanks so much for reading. Please feel free to comment! I would love some feedback.
God Bless and talk to you soon,
C.W.
Okay, so I watched an episode of MTV's Made this morning, and I received such an interesting spiritual insight. The episode was about a group of high school cheerleaders who needed to bond, and become great school spirit leaders. There was of course, lots of drama, mostly coming from two of the girls. The coach made opportunities for them to communicate their issues to one another, and cat fights arose. The coach enabled the girls, however, to become more independently responsible. And one of the girls, who was unanimously viewed by all the girls as non-dramatic, and on everybody's side, was voted as the team captain. Voted as her co-captain was a girl who was one of the divas who made a total turn-around in her attitude. The girls all came to respect her for it, and put her second in command.
What I gained from this silly show was that although the girl who was made co-captain was more popular than the other leader, the girl who was made 1st captain was respected from the beginning.
It made me think of the focal verse in this post, and how it seems like this Proverb woman's virtuosity had almost no beginning. The descriptions about her are like the view of the girls and their captain; from the beginning, she gained their respect by being respectful.
As I pondered verse 15, it is ironic as to what God is showing me (I have been praying that I become this proverbs 31 woman). The 'getting up while it is still dark' is actually a reality of my life right now. My husband as to be at his job site by 6:00 am. It takes an hour of driving to get there from our neighborhood, and so he has to leave by 5. He gets up at around 4:15 am and gets ready. He has to bring along a lot of safety gear, and quite often doesn't allow himself time to pack his breakfast and lunch for the day.
From the beginning of this part of our life, God has put it on my heart to wake up with him and make him food. So I wake up while it's still dark, and cook him some good breakfast, lunch, and pack him lots of snacks to get him through the day.
As for the 'family' part of the verse, we are staying at a friends' house until the closing date of our home. They are so kind to let us stay here, as it will be almost a month of living with them until we can move out. Therefore, God has put it on my heart to also help out this amazing couple with cooking, cleaning, and looking after the house (the husband works with my husband, and the wife also has a full time job). So that is what I have been doing since I have not had a paying job. The four of us make up a unique family situation, and it has truly been a blessing through and through since the day we came under their roof.
The moral of the story is, give, because you are given. Be willing to give of yourself, even when you think you don't have anything worth giving. I have a weakness for feeling inadequate since I do not bring in any income. However, I realize that God is using it to not only help out my husband, but also our friends. In a way, He is using me to fill in the gaps for what they don't have time for. He is so good and His reasons are too.
As a woman, the crown of God's creation, we are put in charge of great things, and great situations. While it may appear minuscule to us, or our churches, or even some of the men and women in our lives, it always serves some greater importance. God has us females to argue the more sensitive side; to feel the emotion of a situation; to think about the outcome; to handle and balance out things which our male counterparts are not equipped for. We are part of a greater story than we realize. God really does give us a great, and honored responsibility to reflect the side of His nature which we are modeled after. We are an excellent and equal partner, not just in a marriage relationship, but as daughters, sisters, coworkers, friends, authorities, business entrepreneurs, and soldiers.
Well, I am off to do laundry, and eat some late lunch.
Thanks so much for reading. Please feel free to comment! I would love some feedback.
God Bless and talk to you soon,
C.W.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
Oh my goodness, it has been quite a while since I have made a new post! Partially, I have let it slip my mind, and for the majority, my husband and I have been incredibly busy every weekend since my last post. I really am sorry to those of you who were looking forward to my posts (I know there are a few of you!).
Anyways...
Cody and I are getting ready to move. He graduates on Saturday, and we are packing up our apartment, headed out to a new place. The paperwork is signed for our new house, and we are anxious to make a fresh start!
One of the things I am most looking forward to is gardening. I have always been a fan of an edible garden, and the green thumb runs in my family. My dad gardens, his mother gardens, and her mother before her. I feel that gardening is so important because it is completely organic. It is also very cost efficient, and it allows you choose what is best for you to eat! Fruits, veggies, and flowers are all very expensive when you have to purchase them at the grocery store. Healthy eating has always been an interest of mine, and it was always considered an investment by my parents. They both have really instilled a lot of wisdom in food choices. I consider myself fortunate to be on my own, knowing all they have taught me.
According to the MacArthur Bible commentary, an excellent woman will go far to secure the best food for her family.
Interestingly enough, Cody and I have really been working on eating healthier. Living in a small town does not allow for many more resources than wal-mart. However, we have been driving up to the city nearly every weekend, where I have more opportunities for healthy food. Our favorite is Trader Joe's, and we both love it.
We also make a point to follow the blood-type diet. He is type B, and I am type O. We have both found that by using information that pertains to our individual types, the foods that are labelled as 'highly beneficial' for us really do make us feel energized. We definitely notice a difference in both ourselves when we are forced to settle with anything less. It definitely costs more than normal groceries, but as I'm striving to be an excellent wife, I realize that health most often outweighs its monetary value. Very important. Even way back in Leviticus, God was telling us what we should be eating because it would be the most beneficial to our health! I feel that He didn't do that because he likes making rules, but because He wants the best for us.
I think sometimes people dislike being offered suggestions because all they hear is that they are wrong. But really, God is right. I feel that it is a blessing to have healthy food options, especially with a weakening economy.
Amazingly enough, our discussions of healthy food leads us to future children. I know that my parents were both very informed family cooks, and I was able to grow up reaping the benefits of a garden! I definitely want to get it right (from the start) when we decide it's time for kids.
I think i'd better get back to packing now, but i feel much better having made a new post. If you are interested in some of my healthy choices, I really highly recommend the book Eat Right for Your Type by Dr. Peter D'Adamo. Here is his awesome website: http://www.dadamo.com/
Just as a side note, I have been criticized for 'buying in' to this blood type research, however I can only say for myself and my husband that the results speak for themselves. I think this could be the missing link in preventative healthcare. And if one would just be willing to try it out, it could change your life.
Many blessings!
Caryn
Anyways...
Cody and I are getting ready to move. He graduates on Saturday, and we are packing up our apartment, headed out to a new place. The paperwork is signed for our new house, and we are anxious to make a fresh start!
One of the things I am most looking forward to is gardening. I have always been a fan of an edible garden, and the green thumb runs in my family. My dad gardens, his mother gardens, and her mother before her. I feel that gardening is so important because it is completely organic. It is also very cost efficient, and it allows you choose what is best for you to eat! Fruits, veggies, and flowers are all very expensive when you have to purchase them at the grocery store. Healthy eating has always been an interest of mine, and it was always considered an investment by my parents. They both have really instilled a lot of wisdom in food choices. I consider myself fortunate to be on my own, knowing all they have taught me.
According to the MacArthur Bible commentary, an excellent woman will go far to secure the best food for her family.
Interestingly enough, Cody and I have really been working on eating healthier. Living in a small town does not allow for many more resources than wal-mart. However, we have been driving up to the city nearly every weekend, where I have more opportunities for healthy food. Our favorite is Trader Joe's, and we both love it.
We also make a point to follow the blood-type diet. He is type B, and I am type O. We have both found that by using information that pertains to our individual types, the foods that are labelled as 'highly beneficial' for us really do make us feel energized. We definitely notice a difference in both ourselves when we are forced to settle with anything less. It definitely costs more than normal groceries, but as I'm striving to be an excellent wife, I realize that health most often outweighs its monetary value. Very important. Even way back in Leviticus, God was telling us what we should be eating because it would be the most beneficial to our health! I feel that He didn't do that because he likes making rules, but because He wants the best for us.
I think sometimes people dislike being offered suggestions because all they hear is that they are wrong. But really, God is right. I feel that it is a blessing to have healthy food options, especially with a weakening economy.
Amazingly enough, our discussions of healthy food leads us to future children. I know that my parents were both very informed family cooks, and I was able to grow up reaping the benefits of a garden! I definitely want to get it right (from the start) when we decide it's time for kids.
I think i'd better get back to packing now, but i feel much better having made a new post. If you are interested in some of my healthy choices, I really highly recommend the book Eat Right for Your Type by Dr. Peter D'Adamo. Here is his awesome website: http://www.dadamo.com/
Just as a side note, I have been criticized for 'buying in' to this blood type research, however I can only say for myself and my husband that the results speak for themselves. I think this could be the missing link in preventative healthcare. And if one would just be willing to try it out, it could change your life.
Many blessings!
Caryn
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands
Dear Reader;
I am so sorry that I didn't write on Saturday. I am on to the next 2.5 week block. Last week my scripture was about bring good vs. harm into a marriage. My whole deal was that I did not try to make the most of the challenge. However, the Lord helped me to fight for the right to be a good wife, and to enjoy my role a little more. I thought about how bringing harm can vary over a wide spectrum of actions. Really, and amazingly, these scripture were meant to address any situation, any personality, any couple, and any culture. How cool is that?
So I really want to talk the most about the next verse, and look at some different perspectives on it.
"She seeks wool and flax..." is the first part of the verse. I was reading the Adam Clarke's Commentary online. What it said about this part of the verse was that this woman didn't go out and buy wool and flax, but she made her own wool from her own flocks of sheep, and she brought flaxseed out of her own garden! Now on the spiritual aspect of this verse, it basically says she is very resourceful, and knowledgeable about things like sewing and gardening. Of course, this dates the context of the verse; most people i know (at least my own age) have ZERO knowledge about sewing. I wish I did, however hand-sewing is not the least expensive way to go as far as obtaining clothing is concerned. Thinking about the passage like that could be considered as 'too literal' an approach. Just like the part about the woman getting flaxseed from her own garden! Does that mean I need to start digging myself some mulchy earth? No, however there is something to be said about raising your own vegetation, or making your own dresses. I actually have been doing lots of research on gardening, and am planning on growing one once Cody and I move to Grants (this is mostly for economic reasons; I hate paying for vegetables). I have always wanted to learn how to sew, and maybe some day I will.
"She works with willing hands." When the commentary mentions this part of the verse, it basically states that her actions come from her heart. It's no question, she is all that is woman. She's truly a servant. Don't-want-to doesn't even come to her mind. If you think about it, it's all in your head. You can ask God to give you the desire to do something, so that way you never feel like its a chore. That is the kind of attitude I want for when I'm washing dishes. I find that dishes are the thing I am least willing to do on my own initiative. I am not sure why, but that is one thing I really want to change about my attitude.
So pray for this next block...Pray that I have a more positive attitude. Pray that I am resourceful as a wife. Pray that I really focus and apply what I'm learning.
Thanks for reading!
C.W.
I am so sorry that I didn't write on Saturday. I am on to the next 2.5 week block. Last week my scripture was about bring good vs. harm into a marriage. My whole deal was that I did not try to make the most of the challenge. However, the Lord helped me to fight for the right to be a good wife, and to enjoy my role a little more. I thought about how bringing harm can vary over a wide spectrum of actions. Really, and amazingly, these scripture were meant to address any situation, any personality, any couple, and any culture. How cool is that?
So I really want to talk the most about the next verse, and look at some different perspectives on it.
"She seeks wool and flax..." is the first part of the verse. I was reading the Adam Clarke's Commentary online. What it said about this part of the verse was that this woman didn't go out and buy wool and flax, but she made her own wool from her own flocks of sheep, and she brought flaxseed out of her own garden! Now on the spiritual aspect of this verse, it basically says she is very resourceful, and knowledgeable about things like sewing and gardening. Of course, this dates the context of the verse; most people i know (at least my own age) have ZERO knowledge about sewing. I wish I did, however hand-sewing is not the least expensive way to go as far as obtaining clothing is concerned. Thinking about the passage like that could be considered as 'too literal' an approach. Just like the part about the woman getting flaxseed from her own garden! Does that mean I need to start digging myself some mulchy earth? No, however there is something to be said about raising your own vegetation, or making your own dresses. I actually have been doing lots of research on gardening, and am planning on growing one once Cody and I move to Grants (this is mostly for economic reasons; I hate paying for vegetables). I have always wanted to learn how to sew, and maybe some day I will.
"She works with willing hands." When the commentary mentions this part of the verse, it basically states that her actions come from her heart. It's no question, she is all that is woman. She's truly a servant. Don't-want-to doesn't even come to her mind. If you think about it, it's all in your head. You can ask God to give you the desire to do something, so that way you never feel like its a chore. That is the kind of attitude I want for when I'm washing dishes. I find that dishes are the thing I am least willing to do on my own initiative. I am not sure why, but that is one thing I really want to change about my attitude.
So pray for this next block...Pray that I have a more positive attitude. Pray that I am resourceful as a wife. Pray that I really focus and apply what I'm learning.
Thanks for reading!
C.W.
Saturday, February 6, 2010
She brings him good, and not harm, All the days of her life.
Dear Readers;
I am sorry that I haven't written in a while. Cody is a student, so usually he takes the laptop with him everywhere. He has been so busy I haven't gotten a chance to use it for more than a few minutes. Also, I am writing from a new laptop, because our usual one died on us, and is currently in repair. It is Saturday, and I woke up about 10 minutes ago (I usually am at work right now, opening the coffeehouse).
Anyways.
This past Sunday I heard a sermon on fasting. It was a very interesting sermon, full of wisdom, and scripture. Basically the pastor said it should be something that Christians do. Jesus fasted an impossible fast, 40 days without food, OR water. When he was asked about fasting by the pharisees, he told them "when you fast, wash your face and anoint your head, and do not let anyone know you are fasting." This means that we ought not to make fasting about ourselves, so that people pity and admire us for not eating. It also doesn't necessarily mean fasting from food (people are addicted to many things). I have fasted from sarcasm before, and also from facebook. Also, Jesus doesn't give you a timeline as to how long you should fast, or when. He just expects you to do it. I did fast from food a few days ago, because it was what I feel God wanted me to do. So God really helped me to get through it. It sounds simple, 24 hours without eating, but really when the push comes to shove, temptation is right there at your door, pushing you to give up.
I fasted for many reasons, but mostly because I felt I should be praying for lots of people while denying myself something important. God really showed me a lot about worship. Now I fasted for God, but I also used it on behalf of others.
This I think, is a way of bringing my husband good, focusing on my relationship with God.
I have really been challenged these past couple of weeks to be selfish, and have given in to it a few times. Mostly with doing the dishes, and making dinner. While I love make my husband dinner, I hate cleaning the dishes. But it feels like God really kept bringing to mind part of the next verse, "she works with willing hands." Boy, that truly convicts me when I think of all the times I whined or complained. I mean, I complained about having to wash the dishes for half an hour, and there are tens of thousands of people in Haiti who have lost so much.
Really, I have it great. God has given me so much, and I should willingly take care of it and appreciate it. I've noticed this past week, mostly just in these past couple of days, that I am so weak. I think the title verse, "she brings him good and not harm, all the days of her life," points out my flaws. Now while I would never physically harm my husband, I can immmediately think of some of the things I say that harm his masculinity. Not harsh anti-male comments, but subtle things I have said to him that have probably hurt him, and made his role as 'husband' more difficult. Like last night, I tried to tell him the best way to get to a restaurant, and he told me, "I already know." And last night I was annoyed that he gets to use the computer so much, and so I made him feel bad. Yesterday, when I think about it, was just full of me being a slight version of an overbearing wife. And I have to say to him, if he reads this, that I am truly sorry. This last challenge I failed.
I started this next part of the challenge on Wednesday, January 27th. The 2.5 weeks end on Saturday February 13th. SO I still have antother 7 days to redeem myself, and come out clean and wiser. (O God, please help me learn!).
So that is when I will write next, on the 13th, the day before valentine's day.
If you are reading this, please pray for me (it helps so much!).
I will write soon, and hopefully with much better results!!!
In Him,
C.W.
I am sorry that I haven't written in a while. Cody is a student, so usually he takes the laptop with him everywhere. He has been so busy I haven't gotten a chance to use it for more than a few minutes. Also, I am writing from a new laptop, because our usual one died on us, and is currently in repair. It is Saturday, and I woke up about 10 minutes ago (I usually am at work right now, opening the coffeehouse).
Anyways.
This past Sunday I heard a sermon on fasting. It was a very interesting sermon, full of wisdom, and scripture. Basically the pastor said it should be something that Christians do. Jesus fasted an impossible fast, 40 days without food, OR water. When he was asked about fasting by the pharisees, he told them "when you fast, wash your face and anoint your head, and do not let anyone know you are fasting." This means that we ought not to make fasting about ourselves, so that people pity and admire us for not eating. It also doesn't necessarily mean fasting from food (people are addicted to many things). I have fasted from sarcasm before, and also from facebook. Also, Jesus doesn't give you a timeline as to how long you should fast, or when. He just expects you to do it. I did fast from food a few days ago, because it was what I feel God wanted me to do. So God really helped me to get through it. It sounds simple, 24 hours without eating, but really when the push comes to shove, temptation is right there at your door, pushing you to give up.
I fasted for many reasons, but mostly because I felt I should be praying for lots of people while denying myself something important. God really showed me a lot about worship. Now I fasted for God, but I also used it on behalf of others.
This I think, is a way of bringing my husband good, focusing on my relationship with God.
I have really been challenged these past couple of weeks to be selfish, and have given in to it a few times. Mostly with doing the dishes, and making dinner. While I love make my husband dinner, I hate cleaning the dishes. But it feels like God really kept bringing to mind part of the next verse, "she works with willing hands." Boy, that truly convicts me when I think of all the times I whined or complained. I mean, I complained about having to wash the dishes for half an hour, and there are tens of thousands of people in Haiti who have lost so much.
Really, I have it great. God has given me so much, and I should willingly take care of it and appreciate it. I've noticed this past week, mostly just in these past couple of days, that I am so weak. I think the title verse, "she brings him good and not harm, all the days of her life," points out my flaws. Now while I would never physically harm my husband, I can immmediately think of some of the things I say that harm his masculinity. Not harsh anti-male comments, but subtle things I have said to him that have probably hurt him, and made his role as 'husband' more difficult. Like last night, I tried to tell him the best way to get to a restaurant, and he told me, "I already know." And last night I was annoyed that he gets to use the computer so much, and so I made him feel bad. Yesterday, when I think about it, was just full of me being a slight version of an overbearing wife. And I have to say to him, if he reads this, that I am truly sorry. This last challenge I failed.
I started this next part of the challenge on Wednesday, January 27th. The 2.5 weeks end on Saturday February 13th. SO I still have antother 7 days to redeem myself, and come out clean and wiser. (O God, please help me learn!).
So that is when I will write next, on the 13th, the day before valentine's day.
If you are reading this, please pray for me (it helps so much!).
I will write soon, and hopefully with much better results!!!
In Him,
C.W.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Trust...
A common practice in ancient customs was for the husband to lock away his possessions and resources, so that his manipulative wife couldn't bring him to ruin. However, the husband of this virtuous woman does not maintain a jealous guard over his stuff. His valuables are entrusted to her, and her unquestionable loyalty.
This is a followup for the first verse of my 50-week challenge. Verse 10 is a simple summation of her relationship with her husband. The woman of proverbs 31 is painted very clearly with "the heart of her husband safely trusts her." As I mentioned in the previous entry, I was really convicted at what this meant for my relationship with my husband; I realized that with my thinking on finances, it was a big possibility that he might not be able to trust me. I tend to be a little lackadaisical as far as limiting any purchases made during shopping. However, I realized that this verse points to more than just our finances, it also lightly touches on my relationship with Jesus. In the Bible, his believers, or church, are described collectively as "the bride." I realized that this should reflect my relationship and my life with God. It makes me think about the verse in Luke, about being entrusted with great things when we are faithful with the minor things.
That is what this will all reflect. Does God see me as capable of handling big, important things?
This has definitely been difficult, even though it's the beginning. Satan has come with his buddies, attacking both Cody and I on all sides. This past week, I saw some intense spiritual warfare...I saw satan's attempts to drive a wedge between me and my husband. But that must mean i'm headed in the right direction. Otherwise, he wouldn't be trying so hard.
Anyways, tomorrow I start the next challenge: 2 1/2 weeks focus on "she brings him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
I need to give up the computer so that Cody can do homework.
dear reader, until we meet again,
C.W.
This is a followup for the first verse of my 50-week challenge. Verse 10 is a simple summation of her relationship with her husband. The woman of proverbs 31 is painted very clearly with "the heart of her husband safely trusts her." As I mentioned in the previous entry, I was really convicted at what this meant for my relationship with my husband; I realized that with my thinking on finances, it was a big possibility that he might not be able to trust me. I tend to be a little lackadaisical as far as limiting any purchases made during shopping. However, I realized that this verse points to more than just our finances, it also lightly touches on my relationship with Jesus. In the Bible, his believers, or church, are described collectively as "the bride." I realized that this should reflect my relationship and my life with God. It makes me think about the verse in Luke, about being entrusted with great things when we are faithful with the minor things.
That is what this will all reflect. Does God see me as capable of handling big, important things?
This has definitely been difficult, even though it's the beginning. Satan has come with his buddies, attacking both Cody and I on all sides. This past week, I saw some intense spiritual warfare...I saw satan's attempts to drive a wedge between me and my husband. But that must mean i'm headed in the right direction. Otherwise, he wouldn't be trying so hard.
Anyways, tomorrow I start the next challenge: 2 1/2 weeks focus on "she brings him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
I need to give up the computer so that Cody can do homework.
dear reader, until we meet again,
C.W.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
"The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain."
Day 1, Week 1
Saturday 16 January, 2010
9:46 am
The passage for the first 2.5 weeks is talking about trust. Trust; I have always considered myself a trustworthy person. If you tell me a secret, I'll take it to the grave. If you confide in me, I won't spread it around like juicy gossip. I will pray for you.
Cody and I just got back from a little vacation in Naples, FL. We planned ahead, we budgeted, and we saved for the trip. The relatives we visited were very generous towards us poor little Socorronites. They treated us to so many lovely restaurants, let us stay with them, and filled our agenda with lots of finance friendly activities.
My Aunts and I love to shop, and shop we did! There are many beautiful antiques and consignment clothes to be had on the Gulf Coast. I went a little crazy, and mostly spent on myself. Cody didn't spend much of anything. During part of the trip, I realized I needed to tone it down a notch, but even with it on my conscience, I failed to stop spending. I will not say how much I spent, but let's say I had a set amount, and I came in just under my limit.
What I should have done was kept a watchful eye, considering the loans I need to be paying off. I cannot describe to you the guilt that hit me one day, when I realized that how I was behaving was sin. After a few days, I couldn't in good faith spend without exercising some sort of control. I really wondered what Cody would think of me if he knew just how recklessly (no matter how finite) I was spending OUR money. I realized something; I easily trust him with our combined monies, but on the flip-side, can he trust me to do my part financially?
The thought causing him trouble, and not getting ahead because of my selfishness, well it seriously disturbs my heart. Selflessness is what verse 11 is talking about, and it seems I have forgotten the kind of humility that God desires for a wife. May He forgive me. My husband, the wonderful man that he is, has forgiven me, and has a patience I can only hope to have.
"The heart of her husband trusts in her..."
This passage does not specifically mention finances, but it speaks to me personally about my weaknesses with money.
It brings to mind a passage in Luke I used to memorize, chapter 16, vs 10-12. It says basically that one who is faithful with a little, will be faithful with a lot. One who cannot be trusted with a little, will not be put in charge of greater amounts. "If you have not been faithful in that which is another's who will give you that which is your own?"
Ouch.
In a conversation we had not too long ago, Cody and I were both frustrated with having debts (mine mostly), and barely making it by with the money we are earning. We have friends who never seem to worry about being able to afford things (it's hard not to compare lifestyles with others). While we were talking, God brought to mind said passage in Luke. And I told Cody that, well maybe God is trying to get us to be responsible with the little that we have; to trust Him now, so that that faith is secured when we have more. Deep down, I know that is what God is waiting for. He is waiting for me to "step up to the plate" so that I know who I am in Him when He puts me in charge of more.
Anyways. I felt led to get started on this.
Dear reader, please pray for me and my quest.
Feel free to comment!
C.W.
Saturday 16 January, 2010
9:46 am
The passage for the first 2.5 weeks is talking about trust. Trust; I have always considered myself a trustworthy person. If you tell me a secret, I'll take it to the grave. If you confide in me, I won't spread it around like juicy gossip. I will pray for you.
Cody and I just got back from a little vacation in Naples, FL. We planned ahead, we budgeted, and we saved for the trip. The relatives we visited were very generous towards us poor little Socorronites. They treated us to so many lovely restaurants, let us stay with them, and filled our agenda with lots of finance friendly activities.
My Aunts and I love to shop, and shop we did! There are many beautiful antiques and consignment clothes to be had on the Gulf Coast. I went a little crazy, and mostly spent on myself. Cody didn't spend much of anything. During part of the trip, I realized I needed to tone it down a notch, but even with it on my conscience, I failed to stop spending. I will not say how much I spent, but let's say I had a set amount, and I came in just under my limit.
What I should have done was kept a watchful eye, considering the loans I need to be paying off. I cannot describe to you the guilt that hit me one day, when I realized that how I was behaving was sin. After a few days, I couldn't in good faith spend without exercising some sort of control. I really wondered what Cody would think of me if he knew just how recklessly (no matter how finite) I was spending OUR money. I realized something; I easily trust him with our combined monies, but on the flip-side, can he trust me to do my part financially?
The thought causing him trouble, and not getting ahead because of my selfishness, well it seriously disturbs my heart. Selflessness is what verse 11 is talking about, and it seems I have forgotten the kind of humility that God desires for a wife. May He forgive me. My husband, the wonderful man that he is, has forgiven me, and has a patience I can only hope to have.
"The heart of her husband trusts in her..."
This passage does not specifically mention finances, but it speaks to me personally about my weaknesses with money.
It brings to mind a passage in Luke I used to memorize, chapter 16, vs 10-12. It says basically that one who is faithful with a little, will be faithful with a lot. One who cannot be trusted with a little, will not be put in charge of greater amounts. "If you have not been faithful in that which is another's who will give you that which is your own?"
Ouch.
In a conversation we had not too long ago, Cody and I were both frustrated with having debts (mine mostly), and barely making it by with the money we are earning. We have friends who never seem to worry about being able to afford things (it's hard not to compare lifestyles with others). While we were talking, God brought to mind said passage in Luke. And I told Cody that, well maybe God is trying to get us to be responsible with the little that we have; to trust Him now, so that that faith is secured when we have more. Deep down, I know that is what God is waiting for. He is waiting for me to "step up to the plate" so that I know who I am in Him when He puts me in charge of more.
Anyways. I felt led to get started on this.
Dear reader, please pray for me and my quest.
Feel free to comment!
C.W.
Breaking it Down
---Saturday, January 16, 2010---
"An excellent woman who can find? She is worth far more than precious jewels." -Proverbs 31:10
I mentioned in my first post that excellence, by the world's definition, is more often than not based on money. The lives of people who have abundant finances are considered desirable. However with God, true riches lie behind good works, and a pure heart, and waiting on him.
So here is how this will work. The excellent woman is described in Proverbs 31, verses 10-31. Verse 10 (mentioned above) speaks about her worth to those around her. That leaves twenty verses which specifically describe her attributes (vs 11-31). There are 50 weeks left in the year 2010, and twenty verses to work toward. Fifty weeks and twenty verses broken down (with expert math) leads to the ratio of 1 verse, every 2 1/2 weeks.
I will study 1 verse every 2 1/2 weeks, applying it to my simple little life. I plan on bringing in some outside sources, and talk about things I've learned. I will write once a week, maybe twice if i work up the gusto.
If you are reading this, pray for me! I am praying, but hoping I can have the support of my friends. I'm so thankful to God that I live in a country where I can freely study the scripture, and His wisdom. May this quest be pleasing to Him, and may it bless those around me.
God Bless,
Caryn
"An excellent woman who can find? She is worth far more than precious jewels." -Proverbs 31:10
I mentioned in my first post that excellence, by the world's definition, is more often than not based on money. The lives of people who have abundant finances are considered desirable. However with God, true riches lie behind good works, and a pure heart, and waiting on him.
So here is how this will work. The excellent woman is described in Proverbs 31, verses 10-31. Verse 10 (mentioned above) speaks about her worth to those around her. That leaves twenty verses which specifically describe her attributes (vs 11-31). There are 50 weeks left in the year 2010, and twenty verses to work toward. Fifty weeks and twenty verses broken down (with expert math) leads to the ratio of 1 verse, every 2 1/2 weeks.
I will study 1 verse every 2 1/2 weeks, applying it to my simple little life. I plan on bringing in some outside sources, and talk about things I've learned. I will write once a week, maybe twice if i work up the gusto.
If you are reading this, pray for me! I am praying, but hoping I can have the support of my friends. I'm so thankful to God that I live in a country where I can freely study the scripture, and His wisdom. May this quest be pleasing to Him, and may it bless those around me.
God Bless,
Caryn
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